words we wish for
+ That they wanted to know if I was okay.
+ The issues I have with my body don’t go away with the weight. Also, buying new pants is expensive…
+ NOTHING. I wish no one noticed or cared.
+ I seem more confident.
+ Wow. You look healthy!
+ Are you taking care of yourself?
+ You don’t need to be thin to be loved by me.
+ People will be attracted to you because of your new energy, not your new shape… don’t get it confused.
"when I was at my 'lightest/skinniest' weight, I was also at my 'lowest/most fragile' emotionally. when I look at pictures from that time, I'm not wishing I looked like that again. I'm proud I don't because I can only think about what was going on in my head then to keep me from eating. I haven't been on a scale since I started be.coming and I have no intention of ever getting on one again."
+ That the negative thoughts would still come, but they’d switch from “I wish I was thinner” to “oh my gosh, how do I hold this body in place so I don’t lose this?”
+ My worth is not tied to the number on the scale.
+ It doesn’t make you happier.
+ NOT that they were proud of me.
+ Hi! What’s the latest book you’ve read? AKA a conversation that’s not about my weight would have been nice.
+ Your life doesn’t get better. Your vulnerabilities don’t disappear.
+ That the loss on the scale doesn’t automatically mean an increase in self-love.
+ I hope you’re taking care of yourself from the inside out.