exploring body-neutrality ll what to expect at the retreat

exploring body-neutrality ll what to expect at the retreat

Are you ready ?? Because the day we’ve all been waiting for is around the corner. Get excited to be part of the very first (hopefully of many) retreat from the be.come project!

When: November 15-17

Where: 1440 Multiversity Campus in the redwoods of Central California

Sign up link: https://1440.us/the-be-come-project/

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All the details:

Truly a weekend you won’t want to miss. All ages, genders, sizes, levels, ethnicities, clients of the be.come project and those who have haven’t tried it yet are welcome to join the retreat as we work together to explore what it means to incorporate a body-neutral mindset into their everyday life.

Expect a cozy, intimate, judgement-free environment to connect, move and feel really freaking good. This weekend is not meant to “fix” something about you, nothing was ever broken to begin with! The weekend is about finding respect for yourself and learning to love yourself exactly where you already are. In other words, let’s grow together.

about the campus:
+ redwood forest trails
+ fitness center
+ locally sourced meals
+ extensive spa menu
+ a f*cking infinity pool

Fun things to look forward to during your weekend away:

+master two routines from the be.come project complete with breakdowns, tutorials, form corrections and JAMMING OUT. all sessions are led by Bethany 
+thoughtful intention setting
+guided journaling
+fireside chats 
+mirror work (it’s amazing we promise)
+conversations with wholistic nutritionist Whitney Hull-Benson 
+Q&A’s 
+a free month of the be.come project 
+a little gift from us 🙂
+free time to relax and explore the beautiful campus
+new friends and the opportunity to connect with like minded people

The Retreat upholds the be.come project’s come-as-you-are philosophy. No matter where you stand in your wellness journey, whatever your experience level, you are welcomed without judgment and without shame in an environment as safe as doing the routine in your home.

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called to be.come ll cristina shares

called to be.come ll cristina shares

Over the last four years, my body has gone through some extreme changes. I developed an eating disorder nearing the end of my freshman year of college. It was life threatening, but somehow I managed to maintain a well-packed lifestyle while wildly underweight. I experienced a summer of emotional trauma with the end of a relationship and the loss of my grandfather in 2017, which ultimately led to a complete reversal of my restrictive eating to emotional eating and binging. Before I knew it, my body had transformed into someone I had never known before. I was facing a whole new set of problems and was unsure how to approach them. Roughly a year later, I discovered the be.come project. My prior experience with exercise was limited to an extremely competitive dance schedule as a child and later a tendency to over-exercise in the height of my eating disorder. Cautiously looking for new ways to exercise, I stumbled upon Bethany and the be.come project. I was so excited about the incorporation of fluid movement with body neutrality, differing so much from the extremes that flood the Internet; I joined the app and soon joined Bethany in classes at Bandier. I took Bethany’s class weekly and felt so inspired to move in ways that helped my body rather than harmed it.

I remember the day they asked me to film for the app. I felt so excited and honored to be a part of something that was so special in my routine. As the excitement settled, panic set in and I walked home trying to think of any quick fix that could get my body to “look better” by the time the filming day arrived three weeks later. On the day of filming, I challenged myself to wear only a sports bra and forgo the tank top I brought with me. I thought if I can wear this in class, I can wear it here. Nothing felt particularly “wrong” until I watched the videos when they were released on the app. As excited as I was to see myself be.coming for others to learn to be.come, I was totally fixated on my appearance — the rolls on my body, the color of my hair, the fact that I hadn’t tanned my skin beforehand, the list goes on. Scared of who I was, and quite honestly unsure of what to do next, I decided that I was really going to make some physical changes, whatever those happened to be.

I continued coming to class each week, but I began a very rigorous exercise program during the rest of the week. It seemed that no matter how much I agreed with what you spoke about in class and agreed with the years of work I put into my mental health, my thoughts were out of control and the only way to control them was to run far away. I very quickly ran myself into a pretty severe ankle injury near the end of the year and all at once disappeared from your class and from myself. I spent months trying to get myself to go back to your class or to turn on the app, but I felt so defeated that I turned around or closed it every time. 

Cristina PYHO 9:20

Over the last two months or so, I have worked really hard to separate my own thoughts from those of my eating disorder. I sat with myself and thought about what mattered to me most. As I sat with my thoughts, I began to understand that I needed to focus on healing my mind and taking care of my body before I attempted to step back into exercising. And life is so much better when I’m not so stuck in my head and fixated on the way I look. I eased back into exercise over the last month or so and have kept a pretty regular, but flexible, routine. Today I decided to take a slow morning and answer emails and enjoy a few hours to myself instead of heading towards a sweaty gym. I finished everything I needed to do and still had some time before I needed to leave for the rest of the day. I could have gone for a run or done nothing at all, but for the first time in months, I felt called to be.come. I wore just a sports bra and leggings, something I hadn’t done in a while, and laid down my mat and let it all flow. I could have been angry with myself for only completing one round because I know that I have the ability to complete two, but one round felt right today. I connected with my mat and with my own movement and didn’t think about the way I looked once during the routine. I didn’t even realize how much I had been thinking about it all morning until my head stopped spinning and I focused on the routine. I felt so content and proud of myself as I chanted, “I can do it” all the way to the end and kissed my shoulders in gratitude to my body. I am still figuring out who I am and how I will manage this life, but because of Bethany and the be.come project, I am releasing some of this tension into the universe and accepting what light will come to take its place.

thanks cristina for sharing! you can follow @thelifeofcristinashea

 

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craving movement ll marissa shares

craving movement ll marissa shares

I am an elementary school teacher and today was my first day of school. For all my fellow be.comers out there who are educators, you know how draining the first day of school is. I didn’t really sleep last night because of all the first day jitters, and could easily lie on my couch and watch Netflix for the rest of the night (I definitely considered it). I have been teaching for six years and today is my first ‘first day of school’ where I came home and craved movement. I still sat on the couch and decompressed from all of the emotional energy expended throughout the day, but then I laid out my yoga mat, put my essential oils on, and got ready to be.come. When this realization hit me before I checked in and started this week’s routine, it overwhelmed me with emotion and deep gratitude. You see, I am a dancer at heart. Since I was three years old, dancing has served as movement therapy for me. Dancing is my meditation. Movement is my medicine.

I stopped dancing (and most movement all together) when I went to college. I was struggling with debilitating anxiety and for the first time in my life stopped dancing regularly. I went from dancing in a studio 15+ hours a week to only dancing when I went out to parties or clubs with my friends (which was also rare). Movement was not a regular part of my life again until January 2019 when I started be.coming. I randomly saw someone post about the be.come project on Instagram, and I was immediately attracted to the vibe of the app. I signed up for the 10 day free trial, not really expecting to continue afterwards. Panic attacks and anxiety had kept me from sticking to any sort of movement routine for years. Yet here I am, 8 months later and be.coming multiple times a week. be.come is truly exactly what I needed in my life. It has helped me radically transform my relationship with my body and how I think about movement. Movement is once again medicine for me. I experience the same joy and release flowing through a be.come routine as I did when I would soar across the dance stage in my recitals growing up. I crave be.come because I have fallen in love with moving my body again. Exercising is no longer something I should do to lose the weight I gained in college while struggling with my mental health. It is something I do to heal my spirit, strengthen my body and mind, and ground my energy. 

Marissa PYHO

Since starting be.come, I performed in a dance recital for the first time in 10 years; something I never thought I would have the courage to do again. Performing was truly like coming home, just like doing a be.come routine. Every time I step on my mat, hit that amazingly satisfying ending child’s pose, and give myself shoulder kisses, it is like coming home to myself. Coming home to myself and giving my inner child all the radical self love and acceptance she always deserved.

thanks marissa for sharing! you can follow @marissa_frances_manza

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meet your demo babe ll adrianna shares

meet your demo babe ll adrianna shares

“Some days we feel good about our body, some days we feel bad about our body, but on all days we can respect our body.” -Bethany C. Meyers

Today, when asked how I was feeling before starting #thisweeksroutine, I reluctantly put in self-conscious. I woke up feeling extremely anxious, to the point where I didn’t want to face anybody or leave my apartment. Instead of turning to either unhealthy coping mechanisms or forced positive affirmations to deal with my anxiety, I decided to seek solace in one of my favorite sacred spaces, the be.come project. Looking at my screen and the choices in front of me, I didn’t want to admit the way I truly felt to myself. But then I remembered the powerful quote from Bethany about how no matter what we are feeling about ourselves, we can always choose to respect ourselves. 

As a professional ballet dancer, I am used to being on an endless quest for an unattainable ideal of perfection. I love my art form, and I am incredibly thankful to get to express and immerse myself in beautiful music and movement for a living. It has, however, also brought me a lot of struggle and turmoil in terms of how I feel about myself and my body. I have dealt with anxiety and depression for many years, and worrying about what other people think of me and the way I look has often been debilitating.

I discovered the be.come project last August during my summer break from performing. After a few months of not performing or rehearsing, I was feeling extremely nervous about getting back into shape in time to start rehearsals for my upcoming season. I’ve always had trouble sticking to a routine outside of the ballet studio, especially during long breaks. I would try a workout, set unrealistic expectations, panic when they didn’t happen immediately, feel too anxious to keep trying, and then get angry with myself for not being more motivated. The moment I looked into the be.come project, I knew it was different. I loved Bethany’s approach of working out because we love our bodies, not because we hate them or want to change anything about them. Most workouts focus on how you want to look, but doing the be.come project was the first time I considered how I truly felt. This was an incredibly empowering moment for me, and has completely changed my relationship with my body and with myself. 

the be.come project is now a place I can go to reset when I’m feeling down, and is a place I can go to celebrate when I’m feeling happy and inspired to move. It is there when I’m motivated, it is there when I’m tired, and it is always waiting for me with open arms after times I may need a break. It brings me focus, clarity, and power. One of my favorite aspects (besides the kick-ass routines!) is also the sense of community. Bethany has created such a beautiful, open, honest, and inclusive space where people feel safe and empowered to show up as themselves. I love hearing other people’s stories of how the be.come project has helped them, and I find strength and comfort in knowing that I am not alone on this journey of becoming.

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my be.come favorites:

song – Pynk, Janelle Monae ft. Grimes. Obsessed with this warm-up!

be.come move – Twisted plank to target the oblique

thing you hear in a be.come session – I can do it!

thing to wear when be.coming – bra and undies 🙂

place to take a session: at home, but love being able to do it anywhere

thanks adrianna for sharing! you can follow them @adriannadesvastich

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