first month with tbp (part two) ll cristina shares

@crispauel
@crispauel

first month with tbp (part two) ll cristina shares

Last week, we posted the first part of cristina’s journey with the be.come project. In case you missed it, you can find it here. Read on for part two!

Week Three:

At week three I’m ready to give Bethany a hug. I’m still into this AT WEEK THREE! By now I usually would start to wander off and find excuses to not workout, well it’s not happening. That little fire in my heart is still very much alive and well and wants to continue to feel I’m doing something for myself, even if the nightmare of remodeling and feeling is never ending is still very present. I stopped paying attention on how well I look while doing a forward lunge or if I’m doing the pose PERFECTLY, as long as I feel good afterwards and I enjoy these 30 min. I’m gifting myself then it’s all good. Bethany’s words of encouragement, the tutorials that I sometimes watch before I do the routine, I’m beginning to think that the be.come project and what it’s about is really getting to me. 

I’m not obsessing about the scale anymore, I’m starting to feel a bit more flexible, I’m eating healthier not for any other reason but to make myself feel better. What happened?! I’ve been in a self-destructive mode for YEARS, sabotaging every diet, workout, gym membership, EVERYTHING and now I’m not even thinking about it? I would obsess about my “cheat day” and now I’m not thinking about it, wait, what?! I’m not even thinking if my husband will find me more attractive, I don’t even care if ANYONE else finds me more attractive, I think I’m starting to like what I see in the mirror even if its far from being perfect.

Week Four: 

This week has been the busiest between work and home remodel, plus I’m starting to feel an emotional low, I’m not feeling my body right, negative thoughts are coming back… thinking that I’m never going to look like I would like to. What if I eat more this week? I crave carbs more than ever and I feel I’m going to mess it all up if I allow myself to eat it. Coincidently Bethany posts a story about how this week has been off and if you didn’t feel like working out, or starting late in the week, that was still ok. Walker, my dog, still keeps me company as I continue the routines.

This accepting attitude is a game changer. I’ve been a person that has talked myself down so many times for years, telling myself how I’m a failure because it’s Friday and I have yet to do this week’s routine and now I’m being told that is ok if I begin late? That I still have time to make it up? I’m not used to being OK with whatever “I think” I’m failing at, so guess what? I did this week’s routine on Friday and it was GREAT! Every week I feel it’s a little bit more intense and I feel the workouts a bit more, then I realized I’m actually doing the full pose, not the easy one, and I’m feeling my body can take the whole routine without telling myself “I need a minute” or “I don’t think I can do this” I DID A PLANK!  A FULL ONE, how awesome is this? I know it sounds insignificant, but when you realize you are still doing these workouts at week 4, even if it’s a couple of times a week this feels like a huge accomplishment. 

I’m enjoying how my body feels after working out. My knees don’t hurt anymore, I can walk up all the stars at my work’s parking structure without running out of breath. My favorite moves from the routine are the core workouts for sure, since that’s my weakest spot. I like how everything is slow but feels effective, like the one you feel the next day. I definitely enjoy this type of workout best. 

I need to thank Bethany for creating this app, their words, how they focus on creating tutorials, how they want to listen to what you have to say, find out if you liked that week’s routine, if you have comments, their way of making you feel ok if that week was “off” for you, to tap into your feelings before and after the workout. I don’t know if people realize how emotionally challenging is to do something good for you, especially when you keep putting yourself last. 

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I started this journey April 16, 2019, it’s now May 30th and I’m still working out. This hasn’t happened in over 10 years. I’m putting myself first for the first time and I’m making sure I dedicate these 30 min. at least 2/3 times a week, this is huge… I went from having pity parties, ignoring my feelings with work and being overwhelmed with a huge to-do list, eating my emotions and finding a million excuses to not do something for myself to taking 30 min. at the end of the day to practice some self-care. 

For me the be.come project is more than a workout routine, is a reminder that I love myself enough to change my dynamic from feeling like crap to enjoying feeling good. I’m not intimidated by this feeling anymore and I’m actually embracing it. I can’t wait to see where this road will lead me to as I feel I’m going through a lot of changes in my life right now. I feel this piece of the puzzle is very significant to my emotional wellbeing and one I don’t want to let go of.  

Thanks to @crispauel for sharing!

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first month with tbp (part one) ll cristina shares

@nayyirah.waheed
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first month with tbp (part one) ll cristina shares

Getting started:

We’d love to know a little bit about why you started be.come!

I’ve been following Bethany for some time now on Instagram. What I remember the most is their tutorials and their attention to detail in posture, that always made me pay attention to what they had to say because I always feel that’s the first mistake we all make, bad posture. Back then they were only teaching classes in NYC so when they created a workout app I was quick to download it, however… starting my “I’m going to work out because I want to and not because I HAVE to” journey took a good while before I decided to begin the weekly routines. 

What was your hesitation in starting with be.come? 

Even though I was drawn to Bethany’s approach to exercising I still felt I wasn’t ready to begin, whatever that meant. I was afraid of letting myself down because this could be yet another program I would end up quitting, so I had the mentality of “why make the bed if you’re going to sleep on it again tonight” as, I will fail so why even begin. 

What was your motivation to get started? 

I’m not sure if I’m going through some sort emotional breakthrough but something in my heart clicked, I was busy remodeling our house, very busy at work (I’m an architect so between my house and job it felt like I NEVER stopped working), so much to coordinate, plus regular day to day stuff, doing a very intense diet AND feeling extremely overwhelmed, this situation somehow was the PERFECT time for me to just go ahead and finally sign up for the be.come project. You would think this was the worst possible time, right? Well, it seems I work great under pressure because I didn’t even think about it, I didn’t question it or listened to the 575930 “what if” that usually pop by just to say hi. 

First session:

What did you expect from your first session? 

I was expecting to 100% suck so I automatically did an “easier” version of the exercises because I would tell myself there was no way I would be able to do them. I constantly told myself I looked like a Muppet, but making myself laugh and also hearing Bethany say things like “its ok” or their little words of encouragement throughout the routine made it easier for me.  Definitely emotional and mental stimulation are key for me, and not necessarily the mental stimulation that is screaming in your face telling you to “work harder”. I don’t know if it’s me but I feel Bethany is more like… “Come join me, we can love ourselves together, and if today you don’t feel like it, that’s fine too”. How can you not like that approach to exercise? For someone who has always felt like she doesn’t really belong, Bethany makes me feel like I’m safe and welcomed here. 

What did you get out of it? 

I felt I could do it and not suck as much as I thought I would. I really enjoyed the slow movements and the music, it reminded me of yoga in many ways and I love that. The routine also had a lot of stretching (or for me it was stretching, coming from someone who NEVER works out), so I felt it the most on my hips, my back cracked like 5 times, so it felt really good on my body. The other part I liked about the routine was that I had to tap into how I was feeling and checking in, so when you have what feels like a million things on your plate that felt like a little gift at the end of the day. So from the get-go I was blown away by what I got from this workout, it was definitely something different for me and somehow touched this part of my heart that wants to be happy and stop the self-sabotage. 

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First week:

Due to everything that’s happening in my life I only did the routine once, however I pushed myself into going to the gym during lunch time, which probably would’ve never happen if I didn’t feel like I’m doing this for myself. I didn’t think someone would inspire so much self-love, but I did feel that I had to commit to loving myself more. This is not something that everyone will get from the be.come project, but it’s definitely the message I feel I need to take from it. 

Week Two: 

Week two routine felt like it was a step up from week one, somehow it felt a little bit more intense “high heart rate” workout, which I found enjoyable. Again I decided to work out late in the day so I think this became my thing, working out before going to bed, even if its 11:00 PM. So continuing my idea that I look like a “Muppet” while working out, forward lunges are not so easy for me. When you’re overweight well… your stomach gets in the way plus not being used to working out it takes a minute to actually get into position. Other than that I liked this routine because it felt like a “good body stretch”, and as Bethany said this routine would put you right to bed if you are doing it at night, well it was true because that day I passed out in bed wearing my workout clothes. I did manage to do this routine twice, which again…. just doing it more than once it’s a huge accomplishment. One little thing I love about these workouts, the “kiss your shoulders” or… any body part portion at the end. It’s a small little thing, however is the kind of reminder we ALL need to appreciate our bodies a little bit more.

I forgot to mention that I signed up for a yoga class in HOLLYWOOD (a drive for me) this week, and not only that I did not flake but I actually enjoyed it.  the be.come project inspired me to get out of my comfort zone and do a yoga class which I haven’t in probably 7 years. What is happening? I don’t care what people think of my “not perfect” body? I will do “Muppet” poses in public? Yes… I’m blaming the be.come project for this behavior. 

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meet your demo babe ll anja shares

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A little about me: I’m a Registered Nurse. I have worked in most departments and found my love of gastroenterology in Endoscopy. Despite finding my dream job AKA day hours with minimal nights, weekends or holidays in the hospital I am leaving in August to move to Denmark. I lived there for a year years ago and always thought I’d go back. As I started to get closer to 30 I decided I either needed to go stop dreaming about it or make it happen. So I’ve been working towards this for the last two years and now I am finally going! I’m terrified and excited to see what this year brings. I am so happy to have the be.come project accessible to me wherever I am because it grounds me. 

The be.come project has done so much for me – it’s hard to explain to people sometimes but people in this community get it. It’s so much more than a workout app. It has helped me feel comfortable in my skin and consciously start to love and accept myself as I am. I have also stopped weighing myself. I never did it often but it rarely made me feel good. I know weight doesn’t reflect health and it certainly doesn’t measure strength, confidence, or give me that badass feeling finishing a be.come routine with shoulder kisses gives me. 

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Tell us how you and Kaeleigh met!

We met in college when Kaeleigh joined the sorority I was in. We went out for dinner and I knew we’d be good friends. I had no idea I’d be gaining a best friend though. I’m not even sure that word does it justice. Kaeleigh is the most loyal, supportive person and I am so lucky to have her in my corner. She fulfilled her dream of moving to the PNW three years ago. Although I wish we weren’t so far from each other it hasn’t changed much for us because we write letters, use FaceTime, and make trips to visit. It was last year when I went to visit for Kaeleigh’s spring break that I made her do be.come with me. After we finished the first routine she looked at me and said “why when Bethany tells me to keep going do I do it even if I don’t really want to?” I knew she was hooked and we’ve done the app together ever since. We discuss each week’s routine, the music, everything and help motivate each other as well as be realistic. When we’re down about not having enough time to meet our weekly goal we support each other through that. I can’t imagine being a demo babe with anyone else!

How long have you been be.coming? 

Since before the beta project. I did the very first video when Bethany was putting out feelers for this. So I also did the VIP video before The January Project launched. 

Favorite thing to wear during be.come?

A sports bra and leggings or shorts. I never would have felt comfortable doing that before this. It helps that it’s at home but the confidence I’ve gained from it has crossed over into other areas of my life. I feel more confident in my clothes and wearing things like a crop top. It’s pretty amazing! 

Favorite thing you hear/see in a be.come routine?

I love when Bethany talks about things they can’t do or need to modify. I also love when a demo babe teeters a little and Bethany encourages them like “nice save” or something. It’s so genuine and now when I teeter or mess up I hear Bethany’s encouragement. 

Favorite place to take a session?

Outside! There is something so magical about being outdoors, with a breeze, and listening to Bethany and the awesome routine music. 

What was your experience as a demo babe like?

I was super nervous! I think mostly about meeting Bethany, remembering the routines, and being able to do four in one day. My stomach was in knots the whole ride to the studio. Once we got there and met everyone I started to relax. Everyone was so excited and welcoming! Once we started practicing the nerves went away, the music and cues were so good we just did it. After we had one down the rest flowed easily. I was totally exhausted after we finished but I felt so accomplished and proud of myself. It was such a fun day and I’m so glad I could share it with Kaeleigh!

thanks to anja for sharing! You can follow anja on instagram @anja.meerwald

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Hi fellow be.comers! My name is Kaeleigh. I teach English as a Second Langauge in Washington State to students in grades K-8. I’ve wanted to be a teacher for as long as I can remember and am so thankful that I am able to mix a passion with work and (hopefully) make a difference in the lives of my students. 

How did you start be.coming? 

I’ve been an OG client since the app came out last year.  Actually, Anja introduced me to the program when she was in the beta group. She was visiting me over my spring break and suggested we do a little workout routine she loved. We did just a quick 30 minutes and I was absolutely hooked.  

Tell us how you and Anja met!

Anja has been my best friend since my freshman year of college when I joined our sorority. Although she was older than me, we had a great connection. We now live states away and still stay close with letters, facetime, vacations, and of course, the be.come project. Anja is an incredible person and I feel so fortunate to have her in my tribe. She is wicked smart (holla at all you nurses!), compassionate, supportive, an absolute blast to be around, and embodies the true meaning of a friend– no matter how much time or distance between us, she is always there. After our journey through be.come together, I can’t think of anything more fitting than being a demo babe in NEW YORK(!!!) with her. 

What are you most excited about for the upcoming shoot?

I’ve been doing a lot of mind-prep for filming. I’m certain it is going to be a taxing day… four routines to film…I’m going to be fatigued but I’m also going to feel the most kick-butt I have ever felt. I’m ready to take this on with Bethany and Anja!

What is your favorite part about the be.come project? 

I love so many things about the be.come project: it has completely changed my outlook on life and the meaning of beauty and fitness. Anxiety has been part of me for a long time. I do a lot to manage it— but the be.come project is the first and only workout model that feels as good for my physical health as it does for my mental health. I look forward to 30 minutes of uninterrupted mindfulness while doing each week’s routine. Focusing on the movements and how strong I feel is a powerful form of being truly present.

Thanks to our demo babe @kaeleighwilson for sharing!

 

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