loving change ll brittney shares

@alex_elle
@alex_elle

loving change ll brittney shares

@alex_elle

I started be.coming January 1st of this year. I’m now 19 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby. With my first two pregnancies, I struggled so much with gaining weight and body image that I absolutely hated watching my body grow and change in the worst way. I had a very difficult time connecting my with babies while carrying them and had a little resentment towards them due to all the changes they were causing my body. Not only how my body looked, but how I felt as well. I never wanted to leave my house because I couldn’t stand getting dressed with larger clothes and how swollen my face had gotten and the thought of people looking at me – that way was unbearable. I remember crying every time I would get ready and my husband just reminding me that I’m growing a baby and I’m supposed to grow too! Plus all the back pain, sciatica and the fluid retention in my wrists caused me to unable to grip anything. 

This time around, with the support of the become project community, I’m able to embrace my growing my body and love it. I’m also taking care of my body, so I’m having less aches and pains! I appreciate that I’m able to grow and make room for my growing baby. I love myself and respect myself because I am strong and amazing. And it really feels amazing to be able to feel that way about myself and this body I’m so lucky to have!

Having two children that are 4 and 2 years old and watching me, I make a conscious decision to not say anything bad about my growing belly, thighs, arms, everything. However I must admit that with be.come in my life, a lot of my negative self-talk has gone away, just those random few thoughts that creep up in the back of mind, but I no longer let them control me. 

With my busy mom life and work life I usually be.come at night after I get the kids to sleep. My be.come time is my me time! It’s relaxing to my mind yet challenging to my body: it’s my self-care. I enjoy it so much and it makes me feel good from the inside out. I can not imagine my life without this release and joy in it. I hope that any other humans, mamas or not, can feel the empowerment that the be.come project has to offer. They can learn to love and embrace the changes as their bodies grow and change: know that you should and CAN love and respect your amazing body during every stage!

 
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Thank you to @b_lauson for sharing!

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be.come just got bigger

be.come just got bigger

Yep. It’s here. The much-anticipated, long-awaited, is-it-ready-yet project has finally blossomed. I am proud to announce that the web experience is officially up, running, and stunning. The “Web experience” means you can now access the routines through your internet browser instead of just the app on your phone. This means you can finally enjoy be.come on a BIGGER SCREEN (such as your computer or iPad). It also means you will have smoother playback quality and can even cast to your tv!

If you’ve been a client of the be.come project for long enough, you know that tech was a real pain in our a** throughout our launch (and then some). Keep in mind, the be.come project started as grassroots as could be. We funded our launch through a beta project, and took on zero investors in order to protect our messaging. This means that every client has been in on the ground floor with us. Helping us build our brand, providing feedback, sticking with us through the buffering videos and delayed music. And let’s be real, there were definitely some tough times. 

I never thought it would be this long before we had a web experience running. Truth be told we launched with only the app because we thought the web would be ready in less than two months (oh dear sweet Bethany, bless your heart.) Every time we tried to build something, we found something else that needed to be fixed. It took a toll on me, I spent the early months feeling like a failure…or maybe I felt I wasn’t ready to run my own business. I worried every day that all of my clients would jump ship and that we could never get things running properly. 

But you know what? That didn’t happen. We found the right people to help, we slowly but surely started fixing the cracks in the foundation, we found solutions to help our clients in the interim and made customer service a top priority. Simultaneously, our clients latched on. Even if things weren’t perfect, the message of body-neutrality was changing hearts and minds and that was enough to keep them coming back for more. 

We decided that we wouldn’t put this out there until it was really ready. And we feel like we are there. And we couldn’t have done it without you.

Here is what you need to know about the web experience.

To access the web experience head to www.thebecomeproject.com (aka: the homepage). In the top right corner, click the dark brown login button. And enter your app credentials. *if you have any issues logging in, please email [email protected]

web site home page

Now that you are logged in, you can do the following on this screen: 

    • edit your account info
    • pause your subscription 
    • email us (click the envelope) 
    • change your weekly goal (click the trophy) 
    • view tutorials
    • read “pour your heart out” stories
    • play your routine!
web experience

Now that you’ve decided to start your routine, be sure to take a moment for a pre-routine check in. You can now select up to three emotions. You’ll notice, we’ve switched up the words : )

emotion screen

Once you have started your routine, tap the music notes to alter the volume. We now have five distinctive volume levels to choose from. Slide all the way up and you will hear mostly music. Slide all the way down and you will hear only my voice. Each time you change the music volume, the screen will black out for 2-5 seconds to give you time to get back to your mat. 

When complete, don’t forget to click the checkmark to enter your post routine emotions! This is such an important step in recognizing how your movement affects your mindset. 

music and checkmark

After you submit your emotions, quickly rate this routine. We’ll use this to make sure your favorite routines come back around. 

rating screen

And now you’ve done it! Your session has been counted toward your goal! 

final photo

And that’s it! Seriously, tears of joy that we have accomplished this. Thank you so much for being there through it all. Oh! And all of these changes will be on the app soon, so you can expect a new look, better playback, and perfect music shortly. ENJOY!!

love you big – xx

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my body: friend, not foe ll sankhya shares

my body: friend, not foe ll sankhya shares

My beautician has known me for quite some time now. In fact, she was the one who did my make up during my wedding, long before it was compulsory to tag the “make-up artist” on your Facebook and Instagram post and the wedding photographer charged an arm and a leg to give you that picture perfect wedding album. She has seen me transform from a skinny bride to a delirious new mother to this more matured grounded woman that I’d like to think I have become. Who, if I may add, has been trying to lose all of that baby weight for years now. 

“You think I need to start using anti-aging? Now that I am past thirty?” I ask her, making casual conversation.

 “No. You don’t need it yet,” she replies.

 “You sure? I mean, I do take good care of my skin…” 

“You just need to lose weight,” she cuts me off.

 “I know I do…” 

“No, seriously. Or else, your face is gonna droop down. Like this,” she illustrates, drawing lines along my cheeks.

I don’t know what to say to that. I had always prided myself on my good skin, but this was like a bolt from the blue. 

“You’ve put on more weight since the last time,” she continues.

 “No, actually I have shrunk a bit…” 

“Who are you kidding? You can’t fool me! Look at this!” she says, almost outraged now as she pinches the side of my waist. I wince.

 “And this!” she pinches the flesh that bulges out from the side of my bra. She considers herself victorious. She has made her point. 

I felt hot tears roll down my cheeks, and I am embarrassed. Embarrassed that I don’t have a comeback. That I am resorting to tears when I should have told her exactly what was on my mind. 

“ENOUGH!” I wanted to shout. “Enough of this body shaming!” 

But I didn’t. Because she was older than me and I considered herself a friend. 

How many times have you been told by a “well wisher” that you need to lose weight? How many times has it been pointed out to you (as though you needed reminding) that you’ve put on weight? How many times have you cursed your body because of these comments that it has brought down on you? How many times have you denied it food just so you could look a certain way that society deems attractive? 

And now ask yourself, what has your body ever done to deserve this? 

I contemplated starving myself, cursing my hunger, telling myself I was weak because I couldn’t stay without eating. I gauged my day based on the number on the scale, feeling giddy if I saw I had lost a few grams, and then feeling like the world had come to an end when I gained those grams back after an indulgent weekend. I refused to eat carbs, and chose to survive on vegetables and proteins.

Then one day, my five year old rebuked me. “Dal and veggies is not a proper meal, Mamma. You need to have rice.” And then I realized the precedent that I was unknowingly setting for my little girl. Here I was, telling her to eat properly because she needed strength, and at the same time, not following my own advice. Wasn’t I being a hypocrite? I was truly at a loss, torn between wanting to become thin and wanting to ensure that my daughter doesn’t have body image issues when she grows up. 

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And then, on a fortunate day, I came across the be.come project and the wonderful, wonderful message of body neutrality, and my world changed. There’s body positivity, of course, but let’s face it, it’s not always easy to look in the mirror and love what we see. There are days when we’ll love our body, and days when we won’t, but body neutrality says that we respect our body no matter what. 

It was subtle at first, this change in me, but one day, it suddenly dawned on me that for the first time in my life, I am working out because I enjoy it and not because I want to lose weight and become thin. I am in fact eating more intuitively than I did before, and I realize I am more attuned to my hunger cues. In fact, the other day, when I walked out of the house wearing a cute outfit that even showed a little bit of skin on my stretch-marked tummy, I realized I have a new spring to my step. 

What I am asking you to consider, is respecting your body, treating it like a friend instead of a foe. My five year old loves to do the workout with me, which means that instead of having to lock myself in a room so I can huff and puff without feeling conscious, I now do my workout in the living room right next to her. I smile through the tough bits because I love that my body is capable of doing those moves, and I don’t feel embarrassed when my husband comments on just how sweaty I am. 

Cliched though it may sound, I think the part of my body that has changed the most over time, is my mind. Here’s to body neutrality, then. Here’s to realizing that even if it is not possible to love your body always, it is possible to mindfully respect your body for what it is.

This article first appeared on “Of Dreaming and Daring”, which can be found here. You can follow Sankyha on instagram at @ssamhita

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finding solace ll alex shares

Source: @bebhaktiyoga

finding solace ll alex shares

It’s taken me about a month to figure out how to truly articulate what be.come means to me. Over the last few years my body has experienced a lot of change.

About 1.5 years ago, I changed my method of birth control. I went from taking the “the pill” to an IUD. I had been on “the pill” since high school so switching was the first time I had my natural body post-puberty. All the parts of my body that I am self conscious of, grew. I felt like a stranger in my body and again like I had no control.

About 2.5 years ago I was sexually assaulted. When I started to go to therapy, I realized just how drastically the assault changed me. I was diagnosed with PTSD and have had to figure out how to cope. I am constantly learning about my triggers. I am fighting every day to get used to the new normal of my mind and how I have no control over how I got here and I can only control what’s next.

@altrebs

Enter be.come: I loved the concept and the posts always made it seem fun and inclusive. I absolutely despise exercising and sweating. As a kid, I was chubby and forced to exercise and go on diets since I was elementary age. I think I always had a negative association with exercise from that. I decided to download the app. It would be another few months before I tried a routine. Once I finally tried it, I fell in love. be.come has given me an outlet to take control over my mind and body again. It’s become my solace on bad days and the thing I look forward to most on good days. It makes me feel whole and like myself again. There are truly no words to thank Bethany and the be.come team for what they have created. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the gift of the be.come project and the community.

-Alex (@altrebs)

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my inner being ll caroline shares

my inner being ll caroline shares

Working out has always been that thing that I know I should be doing, but knowing has never been enough to get me doing it consistently. be.come has changed that for me. I feel challenged while encouraged. I feel my higher self pouring love down on me. I don’t be.come in hopes of changing my body, I be.come to feed my inner being. I feel beautiful, strong, capable, and limber. The moves in the routines make me FEEL something, spiritually and energetically.

Although I’m not a professional dancer, I feel deeply connected to my inner being when I’m dancing. When I saw how graceful and flowing the moves from the routine were, it reminded me of that connectedness and I had to find out more. Now, I’m hooked.

be.come forces me to tap into all of my goodness, and it feeds the artist within me. It pulls out my physical and mental strength. The movements have a way of connecting me to my spirit, and, as a result, the routines feel like an act of self love.

With gratitude, Caroline

@carolinegzman

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