app update ||

Hi be.come babes! Here’s the deal. As we have been updating and improving our technology, we have moved to a new app server (yay!). This doesn’t technically mean much for you except that if you do not update your app to the newest version by 2/28 your video will not play.

Many of you probably have automatic updates on your phone, so you may have already done the work without realizing it. To be extra sure, head to your app store, search the be.come project and check for any updates (the newest version is 1.1.6) If on 2/28 your video does not play, you missed a step and need to update!

As for our web experience. We are still plugging away on this and are closer than ever to completion. Right now, we are flushing out bugs and making a few design improvements (just wait until you see it, it’s BEAUTIFUL!). In the meantime, if you are needing to view your routine on a bigger screen, WE. CAN. HELP! Just email share@thebecomeproject.com and provide the email you signed up with. We will send you an external link to view the routines until the web experience is ready.

I truly can’t thank you all enough for your continued support, dedication and love. We ran some numbers and I’m proud to say our retention rate and conversion rates are BANGING. Like omg-wow-I-love-you-you-love-me-hell-yes. Okay that’s all. Go update!

xx – Bethany

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February 22, 2019September 21, 2021

no wrong way || jenn shares

This message came to us a few weeks ago and we haven’t stopped thinking about it since! Our favorite part are her last few lines, gotta love a babe who gets us. Thank YOU for sticking with us, Jenn, your words will speak to more people than you know.

I made it through the running plank at the end without stopping! For me, this is everything.

I got married New Year’s Eve of 2017 and basically went on my honeymoon and never stopped. We both just never stopped binging and treating ourselves and for the past year I have felt it in my everyday life. I’ve struggled to find enough energy to do things or look in the mirror and feel good about myself.

I’d somehow lost all of my confidence in a year where I should’ve and was my happiest because I married my best friend.

For the first three weeks of having the be.come project app, I only watched the routines. I felt sluggish, unmotivated and scared to begin. I just couldn’t get there. Finally the fourth week I be.came once (I had to stop a few times) but felt okay – almost “good,” by the end.

And then today I saw the notification for the new routine, and I decided that I owed it to myself to go into this with a positive mindset, knowing that I’d feel better afterwards.

I actually got through the routine! And by the time I was kissing both my shoulders, I was doing it with a genuine smile on my face, which I was so not expecting.

So thank you, Bethany and be.come.

Thank you for giving me this feeling and helping me ease into my journey. I don’t feel ashamed, I don’t feel like I started the wrong way. I just started.

– Jenn

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February 15, 2019September 21, 2021

loving the newest me || emily shares

I came to be.come early 2018 because I’d seen Bethany on Instagram and was really fascinated by watching somebody with such control of their body. The deliberation and obvious power in each movement was so cool to see and I remember thinking “if I could manage even the smallest bit of that, I would feel 1000 times better than I do now.”

Flashback to 2016, the year my body began to feel not my own anymore. After years of training in the gym, feeling like I had control over my body, I was suddenly faced with feeling like my body had betrayed me. I had surgery which resulted in me being diagnosed with endometriosis after a year of unsuccessfully trying to fall pregnant. We fell pregnant pretty quickly after having the endo removed, but sadly it was an ectopic pregnancy which resulted in a second surgery within 2 months of the first one. The stress and sadness kicked my endo into high gear and weight gain followed. This only served to intensify feelings of hate and betrayal toward my body.

2017 rolled around and I was knee deep in my university degree, desperately trying to fall pregnant again, and dealing with almost constant pain and fatigue thanks to the endo. Another endo surgery, another pregnancy; this time ending in a miscarriage. My body couldn’t seem to catch a break.

So when I came across Bethany, I was the lowest I have ever felt about my body; I had zero faith in its ability to do anything. The gym used to be my happy place, but was now scary and unfamiliar. Something about be.come felt like home. I joined at 3am one morning in early Jan 2018 while I was laying awake contemplating the year ahead. I decided to switch focus. Instead of obsessing over pregnancy and hating my body for its perceived failures, I was going to focus on teaching my body how to move and feel good again. I followed the be.come routines almost daily for all of January….and on Jan 30th, I found out I was pregnant!

I continued be.coming throughout the first few weeks of pregnancy, and then the nausea hit. Any kind of postural change resulted in dizziness and waves of stomach churning. So I decided it was not time to push myself. I decided to relax and give my body what it needed and find a way to stay active without making myself sick. I ended up going on daily long walks and practicing gentle yoga. I continued moving all the way up to 41 weeks of pregnancy, and once our daughter was in our arms, I felt an overwhelming sense of accomplishment and confidence that I had done the right thing by my body, and in turn it had done right by me and given me this precious tiny miracle.

I rejoined Be.come in Jan 2019, after giving my body time to heal and recharge after carrying another human into the world. I now realize that my earlier obsession with fitness, my gymrat days, weren’t about health, or really even fitness in any way. It was rooted in wanting to change something about my body. My weight was another way I perceived my body to have failed in some way.

This time round, I’m not moving to lose anything; I’m not trying to reach some goal weight. This time round, movement is the goal, and I’m gaining strength and confidence every time.

Love,
Emily

PS – be.come has helped me to change my life in huge ways, and I have even joked to Bethany before that they helped me to be.come pregnant!

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February 8, 2019September 21, 2021

growing into myself || bobbie shares

I wanted to share a little of my story, and thank all of you so much for helping me.

I’m from Salt Lake City, UT and being a queer, fat person in this city can be extremely difficult. I used to work out a lot when I was in high school, I was on the swim team. I blew my knee out senior year so I couldn’t work out as hard as I was, and no one ever taught me how to do an easy workout.

Jump forward almost 8 years and I still don’t really work out. I kept making up excuses as to why, some of them completely valid, others not so much. One of my biggest fears was taking a class that did accept my gender or my weight. The gyms around here are known for the over use of phrases, like, “come on ladies! Go harder.” Or for touching the fat parts of people’s bodies and yelling at them for not having the motivation. And just when I thought I was doomed to get my only exercise from walking to work and standing on my feet all day, I found the be.come project.

I haven’t been doing it for long, but it’s helped me gain back some of my confidence. I can wear whatever I would like and not be poked at. And I absolutely don’t run the fear of being misgendered. Thank you all so much!

– Bobbie

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February 6, 2019September 21, 2021

pure joy || kathryn shares

I found Bethany online just over a year ago and fell in love with their message of self-love and body positivity. I’ve struggled with body image and disordered eating my entire life. Working out was always something that I used as a punishment if I felt I’d overindulged or if I was trying to quickly lose weight. I’ve tried every fad exercise program under the sun and even trained as a fitness instructor myself, but nothing has made me actually want to work out just for the pure joy of loving my body and enjoying moving it like be.come has.

It’s an ongoing journey unlearning all these deeply ingrained ideas about our bodies, but not only does Bethany provide a fun, beautiful new routine every week that celebrates our bodies, they also (whether intentional or not) guide your mindset to shift how we view our bodies also.

I never thought I would be working out in my underwear and grooving along to great music while exercising, but as the weather in Australia gets hotter I’ve found myself shedding layers as class goes on… Now I just change into my crop and undies when it’s workout time!

During last week’s routine I was dressed just like that when I was holding the final position on my back with my knees up and I rested my hand on my tummy. Its soft and lovely and my sons favourite place to rest his head, but underneath I felt hardness… I had abs! I haven’t weighed myself since I’ve started be.coming, instead I just focus on how good my body is feeling, but this was crazy. I injured my back last year and have a bulging disc in my lower spine, but for the past few weeks the pain has been so much better as has my movement, and this must be the answer why, a stronger core!

The routine finished and Bethany invited us to do our end of class shoulder kisses, I must admit in all my time be.coming I’ve never actually done this but today I gave each shoulder a kiss. A physical representation of the love that is growing for my body, and then as so often happens, the tears fell. Happy tears, to signify the end of a long war against my body.

I’m feeling proud, accomplished, strong and beautiful in my own skin. I am so grateful for Bethany and be.come for being such an important part of my journey. Thank you.

xo, Kathryn

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February 6, 2019September 21, 2021

finding peace || celia shares

At 11:02, a call came in from my dad. I knew immediately that something was wrong. My grandmother (the only grandparent I’ve ever known and the women after whom I am named) had passed away. She’d been in the hospital for about a month with serious heart issues. She was 91 has already had multiple major heart surgeries so medical intervention was not an option. I visited her in the hospital and saw how rapidly her health was deteriorating. It shouldn’t have been a surprise but it still felt like an unexpected knife to the heart. The last time I visited she was asleep when I left so I never really got to say goodbye.

I felt hollow and helpless. I had to stay at work but I was having trouble focusing. I’ve written to you in the past about how helpful the be.come project has been for maintaining my mental health, so I decided to do this week’s routine on my lunch break. I normally don’t work out in the office so I stopped in the nearest Duane Reade and picked up a pair of leggings (I wear sports bras nearly every day so thankfully I didn’t have to seek one out). I cleared the floor and pressed play. How I was feeling at the start: heartbroken. I cleared my mind and let your voice and the music guide me. I concentrated on my form and feeling my strength. I didn’t let my mind drift to dark places. How I was feeling after: less empty.

Obviously, I’m still hurting but for 25 minutes, I didn’t feel helpless. I know I’m not going to feel whole anytime soon but I’m really grateful to have be.come for the times I feel powerless and lost.

My grandma was a truly incredible woman. She graduated from college, became a mortician, and raised three wonderful children. She had a wicked sense of humor and a huge heart. Her loss will be felt by many but she knew it was her time and we were gifted with the opportunity to be there for her in her final days and send her off peacefully. I know she will visit us in the years to come. Thank you all for being so supportive and for helping me work through this in a positive way.

– Celia

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February 6, 2019September 21, 2021

falling in love with myself || claire shares

I’ve had a complicated relationship with my body for as long as I can remember. We’ve hurt each other in ways neither of us would tolerate from another human being. My whole life, I’ve longed for the day that I’d finally feel comfortable in my own skin, but this past October I celebrated my 30th birthday, and the feelings and criticisms I have toward my body are exactly the same as they’ve always been.

Hating my body so much for so long has been exhausting. It’s taken a massive toll on my mental and physical health. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve tried and failed to develop a steady gym habit or commit to a diet based on depriving myself of the foods I love (hello, French fries) in order to look or feel a certain way. I never understood people who enjoy working out. For me, going to the gym has always been a chore, a punishment for eating too much pizza or having one too many glasses of wine during The Bachelor. It always works for a little while, but it’s not sustainable, and every time I slip I fall into a hole of shame and self-loathing and the cycle begins again.

At the beginning of 2018, I decided to make a change. This was going to be the year I would fall in love with myself. A few months later, I found Bethany and started be.come, and I don’t think that’s a coincidence. With be.come, moving my body in challenging ways doesn’t feel like a punishment, but a gift. Never once have I finished a routine feeling worse than when I started. Through the app, I’ve learned to appreciate my body for all the amazing things she can do. I’m constantly amazed by how strong and resilient my body is. I’m learning to love the parts I’ve always viewed as flawed or undesirable. I’m not as concerned that my belly isn’t perfectly flat because underneath it is a strong, powerful core that I’ve worked my ass off for…although not literally. I’ve still got the booty, and I’m okay with that.

Bethany’s messaging has helped change the way I talk to myself. be.come isn’t about fixing the parts of myself I don’t like in order to be happy. It’s about being content with who I am now, and I have nothing but gratitude for Bethany and this beautiful thing they have created.